New .pdf, “CSL’s Marriage Observations and Advice”, Available

I have uploaded a new .pdf file to my Free Downloads page. This file is different from others that I have created. Yes, it is another collection of selected posts from the blog, but unlike the other files, this doesn’t really address great themes.

Previous files addressed issues couples in marriage, such as Bad Teaching, Porn, or Addressing Sexless Marriages, just to name a few. This file, however, is basically a practical one, in which I address smaller, specific topics, howbeit with my usual curmudgeonly tact. (Hey, lines like “Just because you have a dick doesn’t mean you have to act like one” aren’t really the stuff of scholarly examination or exhortation.)

The .pdf is free, as all my files are, and you can find them on my Free Downloads page. The link is in the header above and in the sidebar to the right. Your pick.

CSL

The Why and How of My Now, part 5

(This is the fifth of a five-part series; here are the links to part 1, part 2, part 3 and part 4.)

The Original Question

From the first post in the series:

“So you don’t believe in the institution of Marriage, do you?”

“No, not the Institution of Marriage that the Church teaches. What changed my perspective? Believe it or not, the beginning of the improvement of my marriage was the trigger.”

This must seem to be a real conundrum. Four years ago, I was a miserable old coot, praying to die, but holding the idea that “God hates divorce.” Now, I am an extremely happy man, ecstatic in his marriage, who believes that the Church is making people miserable by its rigid worship of Marriage. That just seems so incongruous. Doesn’t it seem like it would be the other way around, that the miserable man would have the “low view” of marriage and not the other way round?

The Why and How of My Now, part 2

(This is the second of a five-part series; here are the links to part 1, part 3, part 4, and part 5.)

So, there we were, in 2010. A Good Christian Couple (GCM™ and GCW™), not unhappy. But not happy, at all.

Me

Due to arthritis, sleeping downstairs, in a recliner. Because of her responses to harmless banter, I “knew” that she didn’t really like sex, and basically put up with it. So I stuffed down my wants to just once a month, so as not to “inflict myself upon her any further” (a line from Cat Ballou – I speak fluent Cinema.) December of 2010, I didn’t even bother, so we officially arrived at Sexless Marriage status – less than once a month.