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The Church and Porn, part 3


This is the last of a three-part series: here are the links to part 1 and part 2.

Okay, to summarize my two previous posts: Paul Byerly, of Generous Husband, started a discussion among CMBA bloggers about pornography and the efficacy of the Church’s response. This is something I’ve been thinking about, and so did my first post on making the main thing the main thing, and not wandering off on crusades. My second post was a brief (for me, anyway) look at some examples of how Christians have affected society in the past.

Today, I want to try to tie those two posts together in a suggestion/rant (take your pick.) Continue reading


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A Parable For Divorce?


It should come as no surprise that I follow several marriage bloggers on Twitter and via email notification. After all, I am a marriage blogger, and it’s always good to hear what others are saying. (And there is always a good chance that something I read will trigger an idea or two for me to write about, so it’s a win-win for me.)

In doing this, though, I find that I am something of the oddball when it comes to one topic, not necessarily in agreement with the accepted wisdom that these bloggers share. Now, because these writers are all great writers, speakers and teachers and I esteem their wisdom highly, I can’t fault them for hewing to the accepted party line on the importance of marriage and the evils of divorce. After all, it’s Christian orthodoxy, and even atheist Michelle Weiner-Davis, of Divorce Busting, is on board.

And yet, like so many of the teachings I have been given down through the years, I am finding that an absolutist stance is untenable. While many want to see marriage as an untouchable icon, I believe that scripture doesn’t back up our attempts to deify it. Continue reading


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Curing vs. Healing, part 2


In my post Curing vs. Healing, I discussed a fourth possible source for marital disconnect (separate from TAG), that of your own unintentional actions causing hurt and damage in the relationship. I made the recommendation that you read Chris Taylor’s (of Forgiven Wife) guest post, A Wife’s Heart, and our following discussion in order to learn how unintentional actions can cause rifts in a marriage.

That said, I want to offer a couple of caveats. Yes, if you discover that you are a source for the disconnect in your relationship, do make an effort to heal the rift. However, do not take on a burden that is not yours; own your actions, not her excuses. Continue reading


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Explanation of Today’s Tweet

One of the items in the sidebar of this page is my Curmudgeonly Librarian twitter feed, and I feel I need to explain why the picture of Donald Trump appeared there, today.

Last year, in addition to my regular posts on marriage and sexuality, I indulged myself by writing about some of my other interests. However, I decided around the first of the year to create a second blog for those interests, which include theology and today’s political scene, so that this space could be completely devoted to Christian marriage and sexuality.

That new blog is entitled CSL On The Bible, and today, I did a post about creedalist Christians vs. notionalist Christians, and this year’s election. Since I only have one Twitter feed at this time, I pushed today’s post out on my feed. For the time being, those of you who are subscribed to my Twitter feed will receive tweets when I do a post on my other blog. I hope this is not burdensome to you, as I find that I am not writing as much over there, at this time. Maybe by the time I start doing more, I will have solved my dilemma.

One can only hope. 🙂


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Dropping A Veil, pt. 3

In my Dropping A Veil #2 post of last week, I said that I wanted to address two things that I alluded to in the first post, and I wrote about how Christians are all too happy to settle for popular teachers, and don’t really look for writers and teachers who take them “higher up and deeper in.” Realizing that my verbosity had once again gotten the best of me, I ended last week’s post with a promise to address the second topic that had become important in my spiritual life: that of appreciating the difference between the living faith of the dead vs. the dead faith of the living. Continue reading

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Dropping A Veil, pt. 2

As I promised last week, I will finish dropping a veil, and give an explanation for some of my comments last week, and for the views that I hold.

I have no problem with accepting the fact that I am somewhat of a coot, a throwback. I realize that I am not one of the cool kids; never was, never will be. (I can’t tell you the number of my students who were awe-struck by the fact that I admitted that I was a nerd, and had no problem with that.) So when I align myself with…. uh, pretty much nobody, you must understand that it isn’t because I want to be fashionably anything. Whatever is chic, it’s a sure bet that I’m not there.

With that in mind, not caring about how we appear to others when approaching God, there are two things from last week’s post that I want to expand upon, to give a sense of my own take on authentic Christianity. (A spiritual Why & How of my Now, if you will.) Continue reading


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Dropping A Veil

I hope you’ll bear with me today. as I’d like to follow up my All Saints’ Day post. Yes, I’m straying from my normal subject matter, but sometimes, Scheherazade needs to let a veil slip to reveal just a little more. (There’s an image that should make you go, “Ew!”) Continue reading

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Valuing Tradition: All Saints’ Day

Today is Nov. 1, and in the Church calendar, this is All Saints’ Day, the day designated for the remembrance and celebration of the saints of God who have gone before us. I must confess that for most of my life, I cared nothing for church tradition, and gloried in being an iconoclast. But I’m finding that the man I have become is growing in appreciation for Tradition. Continue reading


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Bad Teaching: “Like Christ Loved The Church”, pt. 4

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Under the heading of Bad Teachings, I’ve been addressing the truly stinkin’ way in which Christian writers and teachers distort the phrase “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church” (herein referred to as LYWACLTC) into unbiblical shapes, all of which, for some reason, seem to resemble clubs with which to beat up husbands. Christian teachers are funny that way, huh?

Anyway, in a previous post, I shared the time that I asked some readers of a Christian marriage forum to give me ideas on just what LYWACLTC did not mean, and we forged a list of ten ideas. In my last post, I discussed the first item on the list, LYWACLTC does NOT mean you become a servant/slave to your wife. In this post, I want to discuss two of the ideas which are very closely related.

LYWACLTC does NOT mean:
3 – allowing her stay in sin just because she is comfortable.
5 – avoiding correction to keep the peace.

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The Apostle’s Creed; Final Word

Last week, I posted my final commentary on The Apostle’s Creed. Actually, it was the final commentary on The Apostles’ Creed, I purposefully changed the punctuation on the title of the Creed, for a reason. The moving of the apostrophe changed it from plural to singular, from OUR creed to MY creed. (I wondered it anyone would catch on to that, but no one ever called me on it.)

Years ago, in one of the libraries in which I worked, I came across a book entitled Pride Of Our People, which was a book of Jewish heroes. This book spoke of Jews down through history, scientists and rabbis, leaders and mystics, who were important Jews, Jews who made an impact in the world and in Judaism. But the one thing struck me as I leafed through that book was that Jewish history didn’t “end.”

For Christians, it seems that God stopped working when John the Apostle put down his pen after writing Revelation. For Christians, it seems, the heroes that are worth studying and remembering and emulating are all contained within the pages of Scripture. We forget that God created and instituted the Church, and that the Church has been living and working for two thousand years now. The Church has been creating saints, evangelists, apostles, and disciples for two thousand years, and each one had the same statement, the same belief. That is what the Apostles’ Creed is; it is the statement of faith of the Church. Not some articles of faith of the Assemblies or statement of beliefs of the Lutherans. No, it is the basic statement that defines the belief of the people who gather under the banner of “Christian.”

Bill and Gloria Gaither wrote a song entitled “The Church Triumphant” which has a recitation by Gloria, with the theme statement, “God has always had a people.” To me, the Apostles’ Creed is the statement of those people down through the centuries. When I say the Creed, I see myself taking my place in the van of saints that stretches back to the Upper Room. For me, Christian history didn’t end with the last apostle.

Instead, when I say the Creed, I am saying that I stand with the likes of Luther and Zwingli, Zinzendorf and Patrick, Mother Teresa, Billy Graham and D. L. Moody. When we read the Creed in unison, in our church service, I know that I am stating my belief in “the faith that has, once for all, been handed down to the saints.” (Jude 3)

Here is The Church Triumphant. As you listen to the recitation, think about you taking your place in the van of saint living, and who have gone on before.


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