Monthly Archives: November 2015

Therapeutic Distancing


Earlier this month, I wrote a post entitled Truly Miserable?, in which I basically told some readers that they aren’t ready to follow my blog; after all, I said, it’s only when you are truly miserable in your marriage, when you recognize that you can’t take anymore, that you decide to NOT take anymore. Until then, you will take it. Readers of my blog know that this is no new revelation. After all, I’ve even created my own abbreviation to describe this, and wrote a post about it: IYADWYAD, YAGWYAG™.

A husband made a comment to that post saying that in 25 years of marriage, talking to his wife about their problems didn’t work because she always attacked him, turning his words back on him in anger. With tongue only half in cheek did I respond “If talking doesn’t work, try walking.” And then I promised him that I would write a post about Therapeutic Distancing.

This is that post. Continue reading


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Dropping A Veil, pt. 3

In my Dropping A Veil #2 post of last week, I said that I wanted to address two things that I alluded to in the first post, and I wrote about how Christians are all too happy to settle for popular teachers, and don’t really look for writers and teachers who take them “higher up and deeper in.” Realizing that my verbosity had once again gotten the best of me, I ended last week’s post with a promise to address the second topic that had become important in my spiritual life: that of appreciating the difference between the living faith of the dead vs. the dead faith of the living. Continue reading

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Monday Matinee: Songs of Praise


This is going to be different. Instead of writing about classic movies or discovering hidden gems on Netflix, I want to present something that, while in the entertainment category, goes well with the Dropping the Veil posts I’m writing. In my All Saints’ Day and Dropping A Veil posts, part 1 and part 2, I write about where I have ended up in my spiritual journey. It would be fair to say that I have come to love and appreciate beauty in worship.

One of my recent discoveries was the BBC series, Songs of Praise. One of the longest-running shows in all of television, Songs of Praise is a weekly show that presents Christian hymns and has been aired continually since October, 1961. I discovered this program last year, when searching for hymns on YouTube.

We at the CSL house do not watch broacast or cable TV, but watch programs and movies on Netflix and Hulu. Since we do have a DVD player that comes with a YouTube app, we occasionally will watch material from YouTube (the Carol Burnett show comes to mind.) Recently, I discovered that a Songs of Praise channel has been created on YouTube and that they have started putting up whole broadcasts.

Regular broadcasts feature choirs singing in different churches and cathedrals in Great Britain, and I find that not only the beauty of the music, but the beauty of the sanctuaries, as well, minister to me. Here is an example of what I’m talking about.

Each year, SoP films a special program of hymns and carols, entitled The Big Sing, in the Royal Albert Hall, one of the grandest theaters I’ve ever seen. I love to watch video clips taken from The Big Sing. The video is amazing, and I can only imagine what it must be like to be there in person, to hear that orchestra accompany 5,000 voices singing hymns to God. I know that Paul wrote that “no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him,” but this clip gives me an inkling of what Heaven might have in store for us.

Isn’t it delicious, and even ironic, that a British choir would perform the heck out of an American hymn? If, like me, you appreciate hymns and beauty, I would recommend that you create a YouTube account and subscribe to the Songs of Praise channel.


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Dropping A Veil, pt. 2

As I promised last week, I will finish dropping a veil, and give an explanation for some of my comments last week, and for the views that I hold.

I have no problem with accepting the fact that I am somewhat of a coot, a throwback. I realize that I am not one of the cool kids; never was, never will be. (I can’t tell you the number of my students who were awe-struck by the fact that I admitted that I was a nerd, and had no problem with that.) So when I align myself with…. uh, pretty much nobody, you must understand that it isn’t because I want to be fashionably anything. Whatever is chic, it’s a sure bet that I’m not there.

With that in mind, not caring about how we appear to others when approaching God, there are two things from last week’s post that I want to expand upon, to give a sense of my own take on authentic Christianity. (A spiritual Why & How of my Now, if you will.) Continue reading


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Waiting, Watching, Working: pt. 6


This is going to be my last post (well, I think it is) in this series. After we finished our Colloquy, Chris Taylor (of Forgiven Wife) suggested that I write ….

How can a guy cope with a sex hiatus other than simply taking care of physical release on his own?
Whether he is giving time to a wife who is making genuine effort to work through some issues, creating a crisis but not yet seeing results, or trying to work on himself so he is sufficiently prepared for WW III, if he is not having sex, he is without an important connection. How does he cope with that mentally and emotionally?

In this series, I’ve written about the need for refused/denied husbands to cleanse their hearts and minds of the garbage they’ve come to accept and believe, to spend time with God in both Bible reading and prayer, and meet with other Christians to help them get their heads screwed on right.

What I want to do with this post is to talk about you as You. Continue reading


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Monday Matinee: Destry Rides Again (1939)


Getting back to the Class of ‘39, I now come to a film that is one of my favorites, Jimmy Stewart’s Destry Rides Again. Ten films were nominated for Best Picture, and I’ve already discussed most of those. What many people don’t realize is that Jimmy Stewart almost had his own Best Picture race, all on his lonesome. Continue reading

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Dropping A Veil

I hope you’ll bear with me today. as I’d like to follow up my All Saints’ Day post. Yes, I’m straying from my normal subject matter, but sometimes, Scheherazade needs to let a veil slip to reveal just a little more. (There’s an image that should make you go, “Ew!”) Continue reading

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Truly Miserable?


Lately, in several of my posts, I have spoken of husbands who are miserable. I’ve said that the mantra “Everything in our marriage is great, except…” is really a statement of misery. I also said, flatly, in a post about working on getting healthy, that reading my blog is tantamount to admitting to misery. However, recently I’ve been doing some thinking (which is a heck of an easy out when asked why I don’t appear to be doing anything) and wondering if the sexless marriages of my readers has truly made them miserable, or merely inconvenienced them. Continue reading


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Netflix Gold: Desk Set, 1957


Normally, when I write about a find on Netflix, it is something obscure, like a small BBC production, or someone’s art film. Today, I’ve got something really great to rave about, and it kind of crosses the line into my Matinee Monday posts. Usually, Netflix, when they are able to get good movies (yeah, yeah, that is optimistic, I know), they aren’t “classics”. For example, I’m an MGM musical fan, and you can count the number of really great musicals on Netflix on the fingers of one hand. Continue reading

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Great Minds, #6

Okay, folks, now I’m starting to freak out. Last night, I was doing some thinking and started to write the intro to a new post I want to have up by early next week, and in the second paragraph, I write:

I’m doing something a little different here, but I might be saying to some of you readers, “You don’t need to be here.”

Then this morning, as I’m running through my Twitter feeds, I find a link to Paul Byerly’s Generous Husband blog post for today. The title of today’s Generous Husband post?

Should You be Reading This Blog?

Time to freak out, yea or nay?  🙂



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