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Valuing Tradition: All Saints’ Day

Today is Nov. 1, and in the Church calendar, this is All Saints’ Day, the day designated for the remembrance and celebration of the saints of God who have gone before us. I must confess that for most of my life, I cared nothing for church tradition, and gloried in being an iconoclast. But I’m finding that the man I have become is growing in appreciation for Tradition. Continue reading


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Addressing The Sexless Marriage, part 1


(This is the first of a six-part series; here are the links to part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, and part 6.)

(For the purpose of pronoun simplicity, I am going to write this post, and the ones to follow, to refused husbands. Wives, if you are the one who desires more sexual intimacy, please keep reading, because I believe that pretty much everything I am going to say will apply to your situation, as well.)

I am starting to write a series of posts about dealing with sexless marriage. According to different writers and researchers, the phenomenon of marriages with a restricted or non-existent sex life is on the rise in America. One figure I’m seeing tossed about says 1-in-5, 20% of all marriages, are sexless, or nearly so. I’ve hinted at the topic in previous posts, but now I’m going to write  about attempting to address and change a sexless marriage.

Before I do, however, I want to give some “pre-advice”, something for anyone who finds themselves in this situation, and that is to give serious thought to your approach before starting any course of action. Approaching a spouse who is throttling the marriage bed is not an easy task; a sexless marriage isn’t dealt with by a casual “Hey, you know, our frequency is down, and I think we should make love more often.” Anyone expecting a “You know, you’re right, let’s get it on” is living in La-La Land, and has low-lying Florida waterfront property in their investment portfolio.

Yes, a spouse who creates the sexless marriage needs to be confronted, but before the throttle-ee approaches the throttle-er, s/he needs to do some serious thinking. Continue reading


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