Monthly Archives: March 2016
(Trigger alert to my son. You want to skip this post, TMI. Just sayin’.)
Okay, I confess; like many other teenage boys growing up in the 60’s, I was curious about women and so was fascinated with that rite of passage, Playboy magazine. Mind you, my Dad, if he engaged in that particular vice, never brought a copy into the house, so my opportunities to explore that territory were limited. I know that it was common for people to say that they read the magazine for the articles, and this is going to sound odd, but in addition to its obvious attractions, I enjoyed the cartoons.
Of all the cartoons that I read therein as a kid, there is only one that I can recall today, and the more that I think about this cartoon, I’m amazed that it was in Playboy. In fact, it strikes me that it would be more in line with a Christian publication than Playboy. It was well-drawn and depicted an old man and woman in bed, lying on their backs, side by side. (Unlike crude cartoons, this one had “Hollywood modesty” with the blanket pulled up to chest-level.) The punch line, if you could call it that, was in a shared thought balloon, with both of them thinking, “Thank you, Lord,” with the implication that they were rejoicing that they were still able to have sex, and were giving thanks for another great bout. Continue reading
(In this post, I use some abbreviations that I have created. They are listed in the sidebar, to the right.)
A comment that Sheila Wray Gregoire made in her post Why Is Marriage Advice So Contradictory? brought an old-fashioned word to my mind, a word little-used today: Parlor. In the first part of the article, Gregoire writes about wives who are afraid to confront their husbands over bad behavior, and at one point she said,
“They’re afraid of doing the right thing because the marriage may suffer.”
She is correct in what she says, and the reason that I was re-reading her post was because I was planning to use it as a springboard for husbands, for them to read and to follow the advice she gave. Goose and Gander, after all. As I was reading her post and read that line for a second or third time, the image of an old-fashioned front parlor came to my mind. Continue reading
I thought that I was done with discussing divorce as a valid option after I posted the fourth of my series about Divorce as a a Christian’s option. However, something came across my Twitter feed that made me realize that I need to continue to address this topic.
I read quite a few different blogs and forums that deal with marriage and sexuality, and for the most part, I realize that I am somewhat of a fish out of water. The reason for this is that, while I am an advocate for marriage, I accept the fact that some marriages are too far gone to be resuscitated. We often speak of toxic churches and toxic relationships, but it’s not all that common for Christian writers and teachers to come out and say “Toxic marriages do happen.”
Instead, what I read and hear is, “Never give up on a marriage. Believe God can change you and your spouse and remake your marriage into a haven rather than a Hell.” (I do find it interesting, though, for that advice to NEVER be offered to a spouse who is being physically abused.) Recently, one of the Twitter feeds of someone I
look up to …. Heck, who am I kidding? This person I totally revere, and this particular tweet compared divorce to amputation and said that it is a fool’s choice. Continue reading