October 3, 2020 · 9:43 am
Okay, I’ve finally gone and done it. I have finally complete the task of gathering together my blog posts dealing with divorce and remarriage, editing them and creating a downloable .pdf for my readers. This is the biggie, the one that touches the third rail of marriage teaching, Divorce and Remarriage. As I put it in the introduction, it is the Big Mammoo, the heaviest of the heavies.
I do believe that God intended marriage for our benefit and our blessing, but as Wife once put it, “A marriage is only as strong as the people in it.” This .pdf collects several series that I have written over the years into one document for you. To access it, go to my Free Download page (the link is in the header, above, and in the sidebar to the right.)
As always, my prayer is that this is a help and a blessing to you.
Filed under Marriage & Sexuality, Marriage and Sexuality
Tagged as Bad Teaching, Christian Living, Christian Marriage, Communication, Forgiven Wife, Generous Husband, Happy vs. Holy, Marriage and Sexuality, Relationships, Sexless Marriage, Spiritual leadership
August 28, 2020 · 9:07 am
I have uploaded a new .pdf file to my Free Downloads page. This file is different from others that I have created. Yes, it is another collection of selected posts from the blog, but unlike the other files, this doesn’t really address great themes.
Previous files addressed issues couples in marriage, such as Bad Teaching, Porn, or Addressing Sexless Marriages, just to name a few. This file, however, is basically a practical one, in which I address smaller, specific topics, howbeit with my usual curmudgeonly tact. (Hey, lines like “Just because you have a dick doesn’t mean you have to act like one” aren’t really the stuff of scholarly examination or exhortation.)
The .pdf is free, as all my files are, and you can find them on my Free Downloads page. The link is in the header above and in the sidebar to the right. Your pick.
Filed under Marriage & Sexuality, Sexuality, Uncategorized
Tagged as Bad Teaching, Bonny's Oysterbed, Boundaries, Christian Living, Christian Marriage, Communication, Corey Allen, Forgiven Wife, Generous Husband, Generous Wife, Happy vs. Holy, Intimacy in Marriage, Julie Sibert, Mark Gungor, Marriage and Sexuality, Relationships, Sexless Marriage, Sexy Marriage Radio, Spiritual leadership, The XYCode
August 17, 2020 · 4:09 pm
Okay, faithful readers, this is a biggie. Normally, when I post on my other blog, I just say that it is available if you should be so inclined.
However, for this post, I am going to ask that all my readers make time to go to the blog and read it. Well, my Christian readers, that is. After all, my other blog is where I write about biblical topics, etc.
The reason that I am asking you to either go there and read now, or to bookmark it and make time this week, is because I learned something that is absolutely mind-boggling to me: that the Jews were blameless in rejecting the Jesus that the Church presented to them. As I explain in the article, I am not denying the divinity of Jesus, that he was God’s Messiah.
Not at all.
Instead, I learned that because of the false teachings about Jesus, the Church presented a false Messiah, according to God’s own Word.
Please, please, please, take the time to read the article. If you are a regular Christian reader, you know that this is out of character for me, so you know that I believe that this is important information. My post can be found at:
The False Prophet of the Church
June 29, 2020 · 10:24 pm
I have created a new .pdf for my readers, which can be found on my Free Downloadables page. In this new .pdf, I have gathered several of my posts dealing with warning signs for those who are worried about lack of intimacy in their marriage. A smaller .pdf, but I hope it will be helpful. The link to my Free Downloads page is above in the header, and to the right in the side bar.
Filed under Marriage & Sexuality, Sexuality
Tagged as A. W. Tozer, Bonny's Oysterbed, Boundaries, Christian Living, Christian Marriage, Forgiven Wife, Generous Wife, Love & Respect, Marriage, Marriage and Sexuality, Paul Byerly, Paul Coughlin, Relationships, Sexless Marriage, Sexual Refusal, Sexuality
May 31, 2020 · 2:54 pm
This post is to let my readers know that I created a new .pdf for downloading, but I should inform you that this one is not for all, but for Christian husbands only. Past .pdfs have dealt with bad and good teachings about marriage, and with dealing with sexless marriages, and the information in all of them was, I believe, applicable to both men and women. This new .pdf, however, aggregates several of my posts that deal not so much with marriage, but with what it means to be a Christian husband.
These posts were the upshot of a request that I received from a woman blogger who asked that I write to my audience (mostly men) on what it meant to be a husband and lover to a wife. I did that, but I expanded/expounded on more than that.
Whether I have done a good job in doing this is not in my power to judge, but be that as it may, “Be A Mensch” is now available on the Free Downloads page. The link is in the page header and in the sidebar to the right. As always, I hope that having these articles collected in one place is an aid to hurting brothers and sisters in Christ.
March 25, 2020 · 3:52 pm
Okay, CSL, I have read your articles about the Bad Teaching that we have heard about marriage, and I have read what you had to say about good teaching, and I even agree with you. I’ve even spoken to my wife about how I think that we don’t have a good or happy marriage at this time? So now what? What am I supposed to do?
Again, I’m not a marriage counselor, but since when has that stopped me before? You are either thinking about doing your version of The Shot Across the Bow, or you are waiting for some kind of response to it, and don’t know where to go from here. In the past, I have written about what I call The Interim, which is that period that you are now it. I have just uploaded a new .pdf for helping refused spouses with the things that they can do to help themselves as they wait to decide, and some of the things to consider as you think about what you want your marriage to be.
If you are in The Interim, if you don’t know what you should be doing, this .pdf is for you. It is available for downloading on my Free Downloads page, listed in the side bar.
Filed under Marriage, Marriage & Sexuality, Marriage and Sexuality, Sexuality
Tagged as Childhood Sex Abuse, Christian Living, Christian manhood, Christian Marriage, Forgiven Wife, Generous Husband, Generous Wife, Marriage, Marriage and Sexuality, Messy Marriage, One Extraordinary Marriage, Paul Byerly, Prayer Helps, Relationships, Sex Abuse Survivor, Sexless Marriage, Sexless Marriages, Sexual Gatekeeping, Sexual Refusal, Sexuality, Shannon Etheridge, The Marriage Bed, The XYCode, z
January 27, 2020 · 8:00 am
A new .pdf on Addressing Sexless Marriages is now available. Once again, I have gone through my unorganized archives and aggregated articles that I have written on how to start to address sexless marriages.
My first two downloadable .pdfs on Bad & Good Teachings were descriptive, focusing on presenting teachings about sex and marriage that is promulgated by the Church. With this new .pdf, it is my intent to expose strategies and tactics that are used by one spouse to break faith with the other and to present reasons for why these tactics are wrong. I want to help to blow away the fog that befuddles hurting husbands and wives, and then to present strategies for husbands and wives to counter these faithless strategies and tactics.
This is now available on the Free Downloads page. The link is in the page header and in the sidebar to the right. As always, I hope that having these articles collected in one place is an aid to hurting brothers and sisters in Christ.
Oh, just one word of caution… it’s BIG! It’s nearly 500 kbytes, and apparently, if printed out, it will run about 75-80 pages, so be aware of toner needs.
Sheesh, can I be verbose!
Filed under Marriage & Sexuality, Sexuality
Tagged as Boundaries, Christian Marriage, Corey Allen, Forgiven Wife, Generous Wife, Integrity, Marriage, Marriage and Sexuality, Relationships, Sexless Marriage, Sexual Refusal, Sexuality, Sexy Marriage Radio, Shannon Etheridge, Shaunti Feldhaun, Sheila Wray Gregoire, Spiritual leadership
December 3, 2019 · 10:20 am
I have aggregated several of my posts into a downloadable .pdf. While not a compendium of all knowledge about marriage, I supplement my Bad Teachings .pdf with what I believe to be biblical teaching about the nature of marriage. As well, I included my series on Mark Twain and Relationships.
This is available on the Free Downloads page. The link is in the page header and in the sidebar to the right.
November 15, 2019 · 12:42 pm
Readers, this has nothing to do with the purpose of this blog, but is merely, as the title says, a point of personal privilege. After all, it is my blog, and I hope you will excuse me.
My son and his wife are musicians in Tennessee, and today, they released a single on all sorts of streaming sites. I’ve been sitting on this news for a long time, as the song that they were finally able to release was used in a documentary for Lee University’s 100th anniversary this year.
If you stream music from any of the sites listed below, search for Send Me Forth by Stormy and Adrian. I love the song, and I think you will too. Please, stream, buy and listen. You will enjoy it.
(one proud papa)
Spotify, Apple Music, iTunes, TikTok, Google Play/YouTube, Amazon, Pandora, Deezer, Tidal, Napster, iHeartRadio, ClaroMusica, Saavn, Anghami, KKBox, and MediaNet
October 30, 2019 · 10:21 pm
I ended my last post hinting at trying to develop something new and useful for my readers, and I have finished the first resource.
In my header photo, regular readers will notice that there is a new options/menu. I have created a FREE DOWNLOADS page, and have put up the first resource. In looking at the structure of blogs, the first thing that strikes you is that they are in a stream-of-consciousness format. The last “thought”, or post, is surplanted by the latest post, and moved down. At some arbitrary cutoff point, previous posts disappear from the Home Page, and you can only get to them by either clicking the Older Posts link at the bottom of the home page, or searching for them via the Archive menu or Search box that are usually in the side bar.
Knowing that my posts deal with topics in what I hope are helpful series, and that they are scattered on who-knows-how-many Older Post pages, I was concerned that finding needed information might be difficult for people who come to my sight looking for help with their sexless marriages.
A couple of years ago, I did create the Sexless Marriage page that is linked in my header, in which I aggregated several of my series onto one page, and I think that worked for a while. However, still necessitated following links to posts scattered over many pages/years. And so I decided to simplify info searching for readers.
Using my electronic devices, I am going to gather and edit my posts into .pdfs that I hope will be helpful. By clicking the Free Downloads link at the top of the page, you can go and download the first .pdf that I have pulled together and made available. I hope to add to the collection at the rate one a month, or at least one every other month.
I hope these .pdfs will be of help to you, my readers.