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Bad Teaching: Women Rule, Men Drool, part 3

 

bad teachingThis is the last of a three-part series; here are the links to part 1 and part 2.

 

In my first post in this series, I presented the possibility (probability?) of a wide-spread acceptance in the Christian church of the idea that women are more godly, holy and spiritual than men, and included quotes from others who said that they have bumped up against the idea. I posited that this assumption might be a reason for the disconnect between men and the Church, and presented findings from a Pew Research study showing that, of all the world’s religions, Christianity is the only one with a greater female membership.

My second post explored material that showed that the presumption of a female-superiority teaching is actually quite possible and that there is a very good likelihood that this teaching is at the root of much of the dysfunction that troubles today’s church. Continue reading

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Bad Teaching: Women Rule, Men Drool, part 2

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This is the second of a three-part series: here are the links to part 1 and part 3.

In my last post I presented the idea that, contrary to the teachings of the Bible, today’s church had somehow gotten hold of the idea that women were superior to men and without sin. I admit that it is a novel idea to articulate, but since it seems that this is held as truth by more than a few Christians (however tacitly), this seems like a good time to bring the teaching out into the light of day and examine it.

I cited several writers who have suggested that they have come across the concept in their interactions but didn’t give any particulars or examples, other than to comment that they have observed evidence that it is held by some Christians. While it might be difficult to find a teacher or preacher who openly avows support for such a belief, I did cite a study by the Pew Research group that might demonstrate the results of such a teaching being promulgated. In that first post, I included the Pew Research chart that showed that in all branches of Christianity (save the Orthodox branch) women outnumber men as adherents. The chart further showed that every other major religion has more male adherents than women, leaving Christianity as… Continue reading

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Bad Teaching: Women Rule, Men Drool, part 1

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This is the first of a three-part series: here are the links to part 2 and part 3.

We have a problem in the church. It appears that nearly one-half of the church is made up of carnal, fleshly-minded people whose only thoughts are with satisfying their appetites, and have no desire nor ability to truly seek after God. They hide behind a facade of Christianity but, in fact, are incapable of self-control and are unable to submit to the direction of the Holy Spirit and pursue spiritual goals.

I can only be speaking, of course, about husbands, for it is well-known that wives are more spiritual, more holy and more godly than any ordinary man could possibly be. I know, I know; in the past, I’ve said that there are two sinners in every marriage, but today, I repent of such drollery. I have seen the error of my ways. Continue reading

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Another Year Gone?

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In checking the calendar, I’m surprised to see that today is the second anniversary of my first post of this blog. It gives me an opportunity to reflect on what, if anything, I’ve done in my second year.

In coming into 2016, I did make a decision about the content of the blog. When I was flush with the excitement of sitting down to a laptop and flinging thoughts out at the world, …, well, I admit it. I let myself run all over the lot. I started posting about one of my favorite things in life, old movies. I posted about favorite films, favorite actors, and even favorite character actors, the ones you see and say, “Oh, yeah, I remember him/her!” Continue reading

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Two Surprises…

There is a story that I’ve read where a son writes a letter to his folks telling them that he is gay and that he’s coming out of the closet, that he is going to announce this to the family’s church on the coming Sunday. Then, on the second page of the letter, he tells them that he is NOT gay, but that he got an F in Algebra. He concluded with, “Seems rather insignificant now, doesn’t it?”

I will admit that my ‘surprises’ are insignificant as well, but still, well,… They are my surprises, none the less. Continue reading

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What Is Better, Anyway? pt. 2

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In my last post, I commented on how refused husbands could relate to and apply the wisdom and knowledge that Chris Taylor, of Forgiven Wife, poured into her blogpost, “I Promise, I’ll Do Better.”

The first part of her post dealt with questions she recommended that a recovering refuser think about asking her husband in order to be intentional in rebuilding their marriage. She told how after discussions or fights about intimacy, she would say to her husband, “I promise, I’ll do better,” but not know what ‘Better’ looked like. I suggested that when refused spouses are given that amorphous promise, they start thinking about what ‘Better’ would actually look like. So, in this episode I want to present a couple of thoughts on her further suggestions about planning and communicating with your wife after your discussion.

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Great Minds, #7: Hmm….

Okay, now it’s getting suspicious. In my last Great Minds post, I was kinda freaked out by the fact that Paul Byerly, of The Generous Husband, had posted an article with the same idea as a post that I had scheduled to be posted.

Imagine my surprise when, this morning, I’m going down my Twitter feed and I find that Paul has published an excellent follow-up post recommending that husbands read and heed Sheila Wray Gregoire’s article to refused wives on sexless marriage.

Excellent, yes, but. . . two days before I post “Refused? Read  This Woman’s Advice!” Once is coincidence, but twice? Hmmm…. 🙂

CSL

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Great Minds, #6

Okay, folks, now I’m starting to freak out. Last night, I was doing some thinking and started to write the intro to a new post I want to have up by early next week, and in the second paragraph, I write:

I’m doing something a little different here, but I might be saying to some of you readers, “You don’t need to be here.”

Then this morning, as I’m running through my Twitter feeds, I find a link to Paul Byerly’s Generous Husband blog post for today. The title of today’s Generous Husband post?

Should You be Reading This Blog?

Time to freak out, yea or nay?  🙂

CSL

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Love and Respect: A Two-Way Street

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In the last of my Bad Teaching series, I did a number on the fallacious idea that tells husbands that they MUST love their wives with unconditional love, just because…, erm, well,… just because! And I enjoyed playing Devil’s Advocate, twitting those same teachers for their hypocrisy in not teaching that wives MUST respect their husbands with unconditional respect, for the same reason. (My eldest daughter says that I get too much satisfaction in being an internet troll, but what does she know? 🙂 )

But at the end of that post, I did say that I would write a post that would give my views on the proper Christian view of love and respect, and so, here I go. Continue reading

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What’s Worse Than A Plucked Chicken?

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In my original Plucked Chicken post, I spoke about refused husbands operating in a fog. These good men are miserable in their marriages, but try to convince themselves and everyone else that their marriages are good, and would be great IF it weren’t for this one little, small, tiny, infinitesimal issue, that could stand a bit of tweaking. “What’s that, you ask? Am I happy? No, I’m miserable.”

Here’s how I know that many of these guys are operating in a fog: many are seeking ways to diminish their sex drives and libidos. I’ve read many introductory posts on marriage fora in which these refused men ask if there is something that they can do to lower their sex drives, or some food supplements that will reduce testosterone, so that they won’t be miserable anymore. I can even recall a few asking about chemical castration.

Guys, when you get to the point where you are considering any form of castration, your head is in a pea-soup fog!

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