Having looked at the concept that God created marriage to make people holy and having rejected it, is there anyway to discover the purpose of marriage?
It seems to me that the best thing to do is to go to the source, to see what God said at the beginning, when He created marriage. The place to look, is of course, Genesis 2, where we read:
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” . . . . But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
And there it is, “it is not good that man should be alone.” God says that it is not good for man to live alone, that he needs a companion. The purpose of marriage is companionship, completeness.
No, mind you, I am not talking about Jerry Maguire-type of completeness. None of this, “You complete me” garbage. While that may seem romantic, it’s a crock, completely Hollywood; it is merely trite claptrap. (Do you get the idea that I really don’t like this “soulmate” garbage?)
No. Marriage was created by God for companionship. With that said, I need to add that this companionship is not just friendship. Marriage is not just friendship, with Hubs and Wifey being merely buddies and pals. Not at all!
No, in creating marriage, in creating man and woman, God conceived of, and created, the concept of marriage as “One Flesh”. Through sexual union, man and woman become husband and wife, One Flesh. There is a sexual component of marriage, built into it very structure, that sets marriage apart from all other friendships and relationships. This is God’s design from the beginning.
Want proof that this was God’s intent? Well then, let’s look at Malachi 2:15:
Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring.
There it is. God says He made them “one”, and that He was seeking godly offspring. You don’t get godly offspring from any other relationship. You don’t go batiking with your friends, and get children. You don’t serve at Salvation Army soup kitchens with your Sunday School class and conceive children. These are things you can do with any of your friends. But children? Only with your spouse, in marriage.
So, when we go back to the beginning, we discover that God, in creating marriage, created it with a sexual component to create a “One Flesh” bond/relationship and a mechanism for continuance, for perpetuation of a godly people.